The afterward bearings is added accepted than you think:
"We've been homeschooling for about three months now. Since we started he hasn't capital to do his work. I told him I would forward him aback to academy if he didn't accept and chase my directions. He acclimatized down for awhile and was compliant, accomplishing what I asked. But, it didn't endure for long. Now I'm aback to alert to one alibi afterwards addition for what he doesn't wish to do. All I'm allurement is for him to do two affairs a day and complete about one page for anniversary of the four capacity he's accomplishing (math, language, writing, and geography). I accept told him a actor times that I am actuality if he needs help. If he asks for help, it turns out he does apperceive what he's accomplishing and is just pretending. I just can't accomplish him administer himself. I absolutely don't wish to forward him aback to accessible school... but I'm absolutely tempted. Help."
I'm abiding a lot of thoughts run through your apperception as you apprehend the above. Thoughts like, could this absolutely be true? Is this an exaggeration? How can she angle active like this? For those of you who accept no acquaintance with the above, all I can say is, again, this acquaintance is added accepted than you think. And, because my wife already best up the buzz and "dialed" the bounded academy to see if there was allowance for "one more," I can alone chronicle to this.
So, what can be done to actual this situation? Finding out that he is eight years old, actuality are three things I recommend:
Threats: While I don't acclaim aggressive to do something you apperceive you absolutely will not chase through with (like sending him to aback to accessible school, unless you beggarly it), "collecting information" in his attendance by calling or visiting may accession the all-overs akin abundant to activate compliance. And in reality, if you were clumsy to abide home ancestry due to bloom or added issues, traveling to a accessible academy could become a reality.
Structure: Accouchement abnormally at this age charge a anticipated pattern. "School" should alpha abutting to the aforementioned time every day. Capacity advised should chase the aforementioned order: math, followed by penmanship, followed by reading, etc. For those who altercate adjoin such an approach, adage it is authoritative the home too "school like," all I can say is that about abundance and adroitness are affiliated to conduct and structure. In added words, home ancestry is generally just accepting your plan done day in and day out. Can you acclimatize the schedule, and yield a day off if warranted? Of course. I'm not suggesting that you should be inflexible.
I would aswell acclaim what I alarm "pass the salt, canyon the pepper" tones if implementing the agenda and advance work. Your son needs to apperceive that this is just the way the academy plan and affairs are traveling to breeze affectionate of tone. Avoid accepting into arguments, even admitting it's simple to "win" them if the accouchement are younger. As they get older, you'll acquisition yourself "winning" beneath and beneath until your accord with him or her crashes.
Instruction: It isn't traveling to plan to acquaint him what to do, let him go to his room, and apprehend him to acknowledgment at cafeteria with aggregate completed. At this age, home academy apprenticeship is abundantly apprenticed by the parent. Yes, you can explain a algebraic worksheet, leave him for ten to fifteen account and analysis back. A bigger access would be to accept him plan at the kitchen table so you're abutting by for accountability and to advise and acknowledgment questions. The earlier he gets though, the beneath you should be needed.